This is my blog

I feel stuck today. I want to write in my blog. I have that yearning and that desire to write and to share what’s been going on in my life. But when I sit down to spill my thoughts, there is something holding me back.

Why?

Some of the comments I’ve been receiving lately have been making me upset. I’ve struggled with what to do with that feeling. I have options. I can confront the person/people. I can ignore it. I can think about what they said and move on. Or I can let it haunt me.

For almost two weeks I’ve let certain comments continue to bother me. I thought about writing a post explaining why they made me upset, but then I realized that this is blogging. And blogging is supposed to something where we can all share ideas and be honest with each other, right? So I didn’t feel that it was right for me to complain about my comments and how they were making me feel.

But also, this is my blog and I have the right to say what I want. I want this to be a place where I can say anything and not feel like will be judged. Lately I haven’t felt like that. I’ve begun to censor myself more and more because of the comments I will receive. I think about how my words will be perceived and if I am really giving a true impression on my life. The comments make my second guess everything I write. It’s difficult to read negative comments regarding your life and your decisions, you know.

I don’t want to disable comments and I won’t do that. I want to hear your feedback. That’s one of the most important part of blogging. I want you to know that enjoy the feedback and constructive criticism, but I wish more people would do just that. When you give advice and I don’t ask for it, sometimes I feel like it’s a critique or judgment. I become defensive and put up a wall. And if you are going to critique me, please make it constructive. Otherwise you are just tearing me down and that’s not helping either of us. That’s not what I want my blog to be about.

I’m not sure where I was going with all of this, I just felt like I needed to share what I’ve been thinking. I hope you understand.

I know some of you have had this same problem. How did you decide to go about it? Did you disable comments on certain posts? Did you just learn to take the good with the bad? I’d love any advice you have to offer because I really don’t know what to do.

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66 responses to “This is my blog

  1. I have had posts that even before I posted, I knew I might not get the comments that would agree with me. What I did learn early on was that no matter what people write, their opinion counts for very little. Sounds mean, but I’ve found for me that ignoring comments was the best way to “get over it.” I read every one, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t take any of them seriously or as true assessments since readers only get a snapshot of our lives and not the whole story. However, since you reveal what you choose on here, if there’s something you don’t want comments on maybe disable the comments for that one post. Just an idea. Good luck finding your happy medium.

  2. I have had posts that even before I posted, I knew I might not get the comments that would agree with me. What I did learn early on was that no matter what people write, their opinion counts for very little. Sounds mean, but I’ve found for me that ignoring comments was the best way to “get over it.” I read every one, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t take any of them seriously or as true assessments since readers only get a snapshot of our lives and not the whole story. However, since you reveal what you choose on here, if there’s something you don’t want comments on maybe disable the comments for that one post. Just an idea. Good luck finding your happy medium.

  3. When my blog was still sort of a baby (2005! So long ago!) some evil person came and wrote evil anonymous comments about how my writing sucked and I was voted worst blog at Harvard or some crap. For serious? I hadn’t gotten enough hits in my whole blog-existence for any sort of serious poll, let alone the whole of Harvard. I just deleted those comments because they still hurt even though I knew they weren’t true. I still get a little mad thinking about it.

    Some people are just mean. And some people are just insensitive. And others need their own blogs with which to spew their vitriol and leave the rest of us alone.

    Keep writing what you want to write, and let chicken $hit people hide behind the shade of anonymity. You’re braver than that :o)

  4. When my blog was still sort of a baby (2005! So long ago!) some evil person came and wrote evil anonymous comments about how my writing sucked and I was voted worst blog at Harvard or some crap. For serious? I hadn’t gotten enough hits in my whole blog-existence for any sort of serious poll, let alone the whole of Harvard. I just deleted those comments because they still hurt even though I knew they weren’t true. I still get a little mad thinking about it.

    Some people are just mean. And some people are just insensitive. And others need their own blogs with which to spew their vitriol and leave the rest of us alone.

    Keep writing what you want to write, and let chicken $hit people hide behind the shade of anonymity. You’re braver than that :o)

  5. Jen - The Secret Keeper

    OMG, I cannot believe someone would say bad things – I personally haven’t found fault or dislike with anything you’ve written recently (and I’ve only been reading for 4 weeks – so the entire time you say you’ve had the neg comments!). To be honest, even if I had a problem with something you said I wouldn’t leave you hurtful comments!! I would either skip the comments or stop reading. It’s that simple, no-one is forced to read. Anyone coming to a personal blog should realise that it is just that…personal.

    It gets me really annoyed that people don’t think about the comments they’re leaving before they write them, some things can be really hurtful if read the wrong way. It gets me more annoyed when people obviously realise what they’re saying will upset the writer.

    I would suggest you stand up for yourself. Tell these people they will be ignored, or even outed, on your blog if they continue. Don’t be afraid to say what you feel. This is your blog and you shouldn’t have to sensor yourself. I know it’s difficult to not let it upset you, but don’t let it change the way you write! (Can you tell they’ve annoyed me? Lol).

    xx

  6. Jen - The Secret Keeper

    OMG, I cannot believe someone would say bad things – I personally haven’t found fault or dislike with anything you’ve written recently (and I’ve only been reading for 4 weeks – so the entire time you say you’ve had the neg comments!). To be honest, even if I had a problem with something you said I wouldn’t leave you hurtful comments!! I would either skip the comments or stop reading. It’s that simple, no-one is forced to read. Anyone coming to a personal blog should realise that it is just that…personal.

    It gets me really annoyed that people don’t think about the comments they’re leaving before they write them, some things can be really hurtful if read the wrong way. It gets me more annoyed when people obviously realise what they’re saying will upset the writer.

    I would suggest you stand up for yourself. Tell these people they will be ignored, or even outed, on your blog if they continue. Don’t be afraid to say what you feel. This is your blog and you shouldn’t have to sensor yourself. I know it’s difficult to not let it upset you, but don’t let it change the way you write! (Can you tell they’ve annoyed me? Lol).

    xx

  7. The Maiden Metallurgist

    I have only once deleted a comment. Usually I can shrug things off, but the one time someone really crossed a line I decided I didn’t want that around making me angry every time I thought about it.

    I think that if someone is leaving you comments on YOUR blog that bother you (and it sounds like they are) go ahead and delete them.

  8. The Maiden Metallurgist

    I have only once deleted a comment. Usually I can shrug things off, but the one time someone really crossed a line I decided I didn’t want that around making me angry every time I thought about it.

    I think that if someone is leaving you comments on YOUR blog that bother you (and it sounds like they are) go ahead and delete them.

  9. I think if you were to say something about toward specific person who wrote those comments that would give them more fuel to come after you.

    I think it might be best to delete them and remeber how many readers who read your blog and love it!

  10. This is YOUR place! I dont understand why people feel they have to be mean or criticize others they way they do with anonymous comments. I had some horrible anonymous commenters ages ago. I decided to disable the anonymous comment option. If people are going to leave comments, then they can put their name with them. Keep writing what you want and don’t censor yourself. First and foremost, write for YOU! =)

  11. I think if you were to say something about toward specific person who wrote those comments that would give them more fuel to come after you.

    I think it might be best to delete them and remeber how many readers who read your blog and love it!

  12. This is YOUR place! I dont understand why people feel they have to be mean or criticize others they way they do with anonymous comments. I had some horrible anonymous commenters ages ago. I decided to disable the anonymous comment option. If people are going to leave comments, then they can put their name with them. Keep writing what you want and don’t censor yourself. First and foremost, write for YOU! =)

  13. I've disabled comments on a couple of more personal posts, and I instead invited people to email me if they did have feedback. I found that this kind of weeds out anyone who doesn't want to actually take the time to say something constructive, even if they do disagree.

    I'm so sorry you've felt like this. In the short time I've come to read, know and positively adore you, it sucks to know that there are haters out there that are bringing you down. You've been up against some really challenging times and are preparing to make big, life-altering decisions and I totally understand how blogging helps you document and work through a lot of that.

    Delete the haters. This is YOUR blog. You don't have to let anything live here that YOU don't want here.

    I ❤ you.

  14. I've disabled comments on a couple of more personal posts, and I instead invited people to email me if they did have feedback. I found that this kind of weeds out anyone who doesn't want to actually take the time to say something constructive, even if they do disagree.

    I'm so sorry you've felt like this. In the short time I've come to read, know and positively adore you, it sucks to know that there are haters out there that are bringing you down. You've been up against some really challenging times and are preparing to make big, life-altering decisions and I totally understand how blogging helps you document and work through a lot of that.

    Delete the haters. This is YOUR blog. You don't have to let anything live here that YOU don't want here.

    I ❤ you.

  15. I’m really new to your blog but really enjoy your writing. I think people usually say or do mean things because they feel bad about themselves and want to put others down to feel better. Keep writing what you think and feel and don’t worry about negative comments. Your thoughts are just those. They don’t have to read.

  16. I’m really new to your blog but really enjoy your writing. I think people usually say or do mean things because they feel bad about themselves and want to put others down to feel better. Keep writing what you think and feel and don’t worry about negative comments. Your thoughts are just those. They don’t have to read.

  17. I can’t believe someone would say something to hurt your feelings! I have only been reading your blog for 3 weeks and I don’t know you personally but you come across as a very intelligent, sweet and non-offending person. I’m sorry you had to endure that! Those types of people just aren’t happy with themselves…its like the saying goes “Misery loves company”. Personally, I love your blog!!!

  18. I can’t believe someone would say something to hurt your feelings! I have only been reading your blog for 3 weeks and I don’t know you personally but you come across as a very intelligent, sweet and non-offending person. I’m sorry you had to endure that! Those types of people just aren’t happy with themselves…its like the saying goes “Misery loves company”. Personally, I love your blog!!!

  19. I’ve never commented much before, but I want you to know that I love reading your blog and think your confidence and honesty is what draws me in. Keep doing what you’re doing!

  20. I’ve never commented much before, but I want you to know that I love reading your blog and think your confidence and honesty is what draws me in. Keep doing what you’re doing!

  21. I agree with everyone else and your post. I just started reading your blog and I don’t understand why anyone would leave negative comments.

    My dad once told me, if people are being mean or negative to you, it’s because they’re jealous. 🙂

  22. I agree with everyone else and your post. I just started reading your blog and I don’t understand why anyone would leave negative comments.

    My dad once told me, if people are being mean or negative to you, it’s because they’re jealous. 🙂

  23. hey love–i don’t remember how i found your blog, but i follow regularly now 🙂 while i haven’t really had any crazy negative feedback, my traffic is picking up a bit and i’ve heard negativity through the grapevine, based on something i vented in MY PERSONAL BLOG. my advice is to just keep your chin up and do what makes you happy… it sounds so elementary to say, but truly–if people are spending their time focused on critiquing you so diligently, what’s wrong with their own lives?? i mean, honestly. 1) no one’s perfect. 2) if your life is that worthy of criticism, i’d honestly say it’s some form of compliment in one way or another–although i know it doesn’t feel that way. stay strong!! 🙂

  24. hey love–i don’t remember how i found your blog, but i follow regularly now 🙂 while i haven’t really had any crazy negative feedback, my traffic is picking up a bit and i’ve heard negativity through the grapevine, based on something i vented in MY PERSONAL BLOG. my advice is to just keep your chin up and do what makes you happy… it sounds so elementary to say, but truly–if people are spending their time focused on critiquing you so diligently, what’s wrong with their own lives?? i mean, honestly. 1) no one’s perfect. 2) if your life is that worthy of criticism, i’d honestly say it’s some form of compliment in one way or another–although i know it doesn’t feel that way. stay strong!! 🙂

  25. Haters will be haters. But there is a difference between hating and keeping it to yourself and hating and letting the person know you hate it. If someone feels the need to tell you the disapprove then they probably don’t deserve to post their thoughts in the first place. There is a certain way of saying you don’t agree without making the other person feel offended, am I making any sense? Criticism is both good and bad but I think you need to take it for what it’s worth. If someone is critical of you in an un-classy way then eff them. You don’t deserve to be treated that way for puting your thoughts out there!

  26. Haters will be haters. But there is a difference between hating and keeping it to yourself and hating and letting the person know you hate it. If someone feels the need to tell you the disapprove then they probably don’t deserve to post their thoughts in the first place. There is a certain way of saying you don’t agree without making the other person feel offended, am I making any sense? Criticism is both good and bad but I think you need to take it for what it’s worth. If someone is critical of you in an un-classy way then eff them. You don’t deserve to be treated that way for puting your thoughts out there!

  27. Don’t let them get to you. It’s your blog and you have the right to say, or not say, whatever you want. Don’t let rude and mean-spirited people bring you down and ruin an important aspect of your life.

    Please don’t change the way you write. Some of the things I admire most about you and your writing are your openness, your honesty, and the way you are able to articulate emotions and experiences so effortlessly. You’ve built up a wonderful and loyal fighting who obviously enjoys your content (or else why would we keep coming back?) Changing the way you write b/c of rude commentors will give them exactly what they want, and they don’t deserve that.

    In response to your question:

    I received a negative and mean spirited comment from someone once, and I responded to it on my blog and then confronted her about it once I figured out who she was. The reason I responded to it publicly was b/c a lot people noticed the comment and spoke out against her on my behalf (Oh, the drama!)and I felt the need to clarify.

    (if you’re interested in seeing how I responded to her, here’s the post: http://missmusing.blogspot.com/search?q=why+I+write)

    I was torn about leaving up her negative comment b/c the last thing I want is for my blog to become a negative place, but at the same time I felt the need be fair and give her a voice, even if it was one I didn’t agree with.

  28. Don’t let them get to you. It’s your blog and you have the right to say, or not say, whatever you want. Don’t let rude and mean-spirited people bring you down and ruin an important aspect of your life.

    Please don’t change the way you write. Some of the things I admire most about you and your writing are your openness, your honesty, and the way you are able to articulate emotions and experiences so effortlessly. You’ve built up a wonderful and loyal fighting who obviously enjoys your content (or else why would we keep coming back?) Changing the way you write b/c of rude commentors will give them exactly what they want, and they don’t deserve that.

    In response to your question:

    I received a negative and mean spirited comment from someone once, and I responded to it on my blog and then confronted her about it once I figured out who she was. The reason I responded to it publicly was b/c a lot people noticed the comment and spoke out against her on my behalf (Oh, the drama!)and I felt the need to clarify.

    (if you’re interested in seeing how I responded to her, here’s the post: http://missmusing.blogspot.com/search?q=why+I+write)

    I was torn about leaving up her negative comment b/c the last thing I want is for my blog to become a negative place, but at the same time I felt the need be fair and give her a voice, even if it was one I didn’t agree with.

  29. Gwen B. (aka skinny bitch)

    I am sure that my last comment was the one you were talking about, that is the only one I saw over you last few post that was “criticizing”. I didn’t mean to criticize you Ashley and I am sorry. I just meant to say that I think you are just too afraid to follow your heart. I know you love NYC and you are scared to go back to Texas with the whole family situation, but I think you will be ok. I just didn’t like that you were second guessing yourself.

    I know this is a huge decision, I mean you are starting a career and a life of your own and we fellow bloggers really don’t have the strongest say in what YOU do with your life. It’s like you said, you write this blog to get feedback and that was just my way of telling you how I feel.

    I don’t think you should stop comments or writing just because of comments. You have control over your life, not your commenters. I don’t really know how to make criticism constructive so I come off as a bitch. I wasn’t “hating” on you or anything. Just hoping you realize that it is better to jump off the cliff and live than stay in the safe place and regret it later.

    No hard feelings 🙂

  30. Gwen B. (aka skinny bitch)

    I am sure that my last comment was the one you were talking about, that is the only one I saw over you last few post that was “criticizing”. I didn’t mean to criticize you Ashley and I am sorry. I just meant to say that I think you are just too afraid to follow your heart. I know you love NYC and you are scared to go back to Texas with the whole family situation, but I think you will be ok. I just didn’t like that you were second guessing yourself.

    I know this is a huge decision, I mean you are starting a career and a life of your own and we fellow bloggers really don’t have the strongest say in what YOU do with your life. It’s like you said, you write this blog to get feedback and that was just my way of telling you how I feel.

    I don’t think you should stop comments or writing just because of comments. You have control over your life, not your commenters. I don’t really know how to make criticism constructive so I come off as a bitch. I wasn’t “hating” on you or anything. Just hoping you realize that it is better to jump off the cliff and live than stay in the safe place and regret it later.

    No hard feelings 🙂

  31. “Get…that…dirt off yo shoulder”

    All good lessons are learned from JayZ. Except maybe that one about all his problems but not ‘the bitch’.

    I didn’t get that one.

  32. “Get…that…dirt off yo shoulder”

    All good lessons are learned from JayZ. Except maybe that one about all his problems but not ‘the bitch’.

    I didn’t get that one.

  33. I think I know the kind of comments you’re talking about, and I honestly haven’t had many of them.

    The comments I’ve received that bother me, I’ve ignored. I have this personal rule against telling people how to respond to my writing, but if it was bothering me like these comments are bothering you, then I think you did the right thing.

    I think even offering constructive criticism is out of place unless asked for. I might make the exception for a very close friend who I think really needs to hear something, but I can’t imagine offering unsolicited advice over a blog.

  34. I think I know the kind of comments you’re talking about, and I honestly haven’t had many of them.

    The comments I’ve received that bother me, I’ve ignored. I have this personal rule against telling people how to respond to my writing, but if it was bothering me like these comments are bothering you, then I think you did the right thing.

    I think even offering constructive criticism is out of place unless asked for. I might make the exception for a very close friend who I think really needs to hear something, but I can’t imagine offering unsolicited advice over a blog.

  35. insomniaclolita

    If a person reads other’s blogs only to leave some disgusting comments later, he or she isn’t really worth your time and thoughts. Really. Unlike website, blog is pretty personal and it’s called blog because the writer can write whatever it is he or she wants. And not for pleasing everyone’s purpose. Enjoy being who you are, girlie, people who love you and your blog are a lot more than the haters.

  36. insomniaclolita

    If a person reads other’s blogs only to leave some disgusting comments later, he or she isn’t really worth your time and thoughts. Really. Unlike website, blog is pretty personal and it’s called blog because the writer can write whatever it is he or she wants. And not for pleasing everyone’s purpose. Enjoy being who you are, girlie, people who love you and your blog are a lot more than the haters.

  37. i say you write what you want this is your blog and the people that leave mean comments can just get out! they’re not welcome here 🙂

  38. i say you write what you want this is your blog and the people that leave mean comments can just get out! they’re not welcome here 🙂

  39. Oops! There’s a typo in my comment above. It says “fighting” instead of following. That’s what I get for watching Fight Club while I catch up on blogs 🙂

  40. Oops! There’s a typo in my comment above. It says “fighting” instead of following. That’s what I get for watching Fight Club while I catch up on blogs 🙂

  41. I’ve had negative posts too that have been very hurtful, especially the anon ones. They are difficult to take and tough not to take it personally. Be strong and disable anon comments if you have to for a while. I’ve been there.

  42. I’ve had negative posts too that have been very hurtful, especially the anon ones. They are difficult to take and tough not to take it personally. Be strong and disable anon comments if you have to for a while. I’ve been there.

  43. Wearing Mascara

    Hey girl!

    I was pleasantly surprised to stumble upon this post today because this morning, I received a not-so-nice comment from an anonymous reader. This really hurt me and is the 2nd time I’ve gotten a hurtful comment. I have done some research on this – how to handle anonymous comments etc and my opinion right now is that this is your blog and you can do what you want with it. Personally, I delete nasty comments because I don’t think they belong in my space. As you mentioned, if it was constructive feedback, that’s fine but nothing just plain mean or rude. Think about it this way, if someone you didn’t know came into your house and insulted you, you would kick them out right? I think the same goes here. I don’t think anonymous and mean comments have a place on any blog.

    Good luck to you and I LOVE your blog always 🙂

    j

  44. Wearing Mascara

    Hey girl!

    I was pleasantly surprised to stumble upon this post today because this morning, I received a not-so-nice comment from an anonymous reader. This really hurt me and is the 2nd time I’ve gotten a hurtful comment. I have done some research on this – how to handle anonymous comments etc and my opinion right now is that this is your blog and you can do what you want with it. Personally, I delete nasty comments because I don’t think they belong in my space. As you mentioned, if it was constructive feedback, that’s fine but nothing just plain mean or rude. Think about it this way, if someone you didn’t know came into your house and insulted you, you would kick them out right? I think the same goes here. I don’t think anonymous and mean comments have a place on any blog.

    Good luck to you and I LOVE your blog always 🙂

    j

  45. When I get a negative comment, if it’s constructive, I consider the person’s point of view, and if I think it doesn’t apply to me, I just move on. As someone who has constantly been beaten down by others, I’m surprised at how well I can take the negative comments. They’re just people. And they don’t know you. You’re never going to please everyone, and if you try, you’re just going to drive yourself crazy. Just think of the ratio of positive comments you get to the negative ones!

    And the ones that are just mean, well, those people have no lives and just want to stir shit up. Ignore them 🙂

  46. When I get a negative comment, if it’s constructive, I consider the person’s point of view, and if I think it doesn’t apply to me, I just move on. As someone who has constantly been beaten down by others, I’m surprised at how well I can take the negative comments. They’re just people. And they don’t know you. You’re never going to please everyone, and if you try, you’re just going to drive yourself crazy. Just think of the ratio of positive comments you get to the negative ones!

    And the ones that are just mean, well, those people have no lives and just want to stir shit up. Ignore them 🙂

  47. I love reading your blog and enjoy your writing style. I think blogging is one of those forums that is 99% awesome and then there’s that 1% of people who will just be douche-bags because they can do it anonymously. Please don’t change yourself in this forum just because of those 1% – because the 99% of us not D-Bags will miss out. 😉

  48. I love reading your blog and enjoy your writing style. I think blogging is one of those forums that is 99% awesome and then there’s that 1% of people who will just be douche-bags because they can do it anonymously. Please don’t change yourself in this forum just because of those 1% – because the 99% of us not D-Bags will miss out. 😉

  49. Hi, I’m totally new to this blogging thing, but I just read your post today and felt I had to comment! Just ignore the nasty comments, please don’t feel the need to censor your comments. Free speech is what it’s all about.

    I love reading your blog, I think I found it through an eH forum or something. I’m currently trying this blogging thing to hopefully help me destress but on an anonymous avenue. No one knows about my blog, and I prefer it that way for now. I’d like to see things from a stranger’s pov, hopefully not everyone is so critical and this is more stressful to me than not having a blog.

    moonjavasmusings.blogspot.com

  50. Hi, I’m totally new to this blogging thing, but I just read your post today and felt I had to comment! Just ignore the nasty comments, please don’t feel the need to censor your comments. Free speech is what it’s all about.

    I love reading your blog, I think I found it through an eH forum or something. I’m currently trying this blogging thing to hopefully help me destress but on an anonymous avenue. No one knows about my blog, and I prefer it that way for now. I’d like to see things from a stranger’s pov, hopefully not everyone is so critical and this is more stressful to me than not having a blog.

    moonjavasmusings.blogspot.com

  51. I don’t get enough comments usually to get negative or upsetting ones but i do get spammed like a bee-hatch (oh akismet how i love you). it’s your blog, say what you like and while it’s fine to listen to the dissenting voices, don’t listen to the rude/hating ones!

  52. I don’t get enough comments usually to get negative or upsetting ones but i do get spammed like a bee-hatch (oh akismet how i love you). it’s your blog, say what you like and while it’s fine to listen to the dissenting voices, don’t listen to the rude/hating ones!

  53. My biggest pet peeve is unsolicited advice. I hardly get hateful comments but I do get A LOT of advice that I don’t ask for. Usually, I like hearing all sorts of different opinions but sometimes they hit me the wrong way and I feel like I need to justify myself. I also feel like, “Hello? You don’t know ALL of me. This is just a fragment of me and my life.”

    Someone wrote something above that struck me as really interesting though. They said something about letting people know what you don’t like. I think I may actually put that in practice.

    I’ve usually ignored the comments that I don’t like, but perhaps its a good idea to let that person know that we don’t like it?

    Yea, this one’s a toughie! Good luck with whatever you decide. And keep on writing!

  54. My biggest pet peeve is unsolicited advice. I hardly get hateful comments but I do get A LOT of advice that I don’t ask for. Usually, I like hearing all sorts of different opinions but sometimes they hit me the wrong way and I feel like I need to justify myself. I also feel like, “Hello? You don’t know ALL of me. This is just a fragment of me and my life.”

    Someone wrote something above that struck me as really interesting though. They said something about letting people know what you don’t like. I think I may actually put that in practice.

    I’ve usually ignored the comments that I don’t like, but perhaps its a good idea to let that person know that we don’t like it?

    Yea, this one’s a toughie! Good luck with whatever you decide. And keep on writing!

  55. Keep on writing! don’t give them a clue huh!!
    And please take a look at:
    http://scarlettwalk.blogspot.com/2009/03/for-ashley-d.html

  56. Keep on writing! don’t give them a clue huh!!
    And please take a look at:
    http://scarlettwalk.blogspot.com/2009/03/for-ashley-d.html

  57. notthelifeiordered

    Deleting is my best friend. If it bothers you, get rid of it. The longer it sits festering about in your blog, the longer you will fester about it too. I have gotten some nasty comments, some rude ones and some that probably weren’t meant to come out mean but did. I get rid of them, out of sight, out of mind.

    I’m so sorry that you’ve been upset, but that shouldn’t keep you from blogging EXACTLY whats on your mind. It may sting when someone can’t see your point of view and express it in a nice way but I think thats the game of blogging. Just know that for every mean comment you get, there are at least quadruple that in nice ones!

  58. notthelifeiordered

    Deleting is my best friend. If it bothers you, get rid of it. The longer it sits festering about in your blog, the longer you will fester about it too. I have gotten some nasty comments, some rude ones and some that probably weren’t meant to come out mean but did. I get rid of them, out of sight, out of mind.

    I’m so sorry that you’ve been upset, but that shouldn’t keep you from blogging EXACTLY whats on your mind. It may sting when someone can’t see your point of view and express it in a nice way but I think thats the game of blogging. Just know that for every mean comment you get, there are at least quadruple that in nice ones!

  59. Princess Extraordinaire

    Thisis YOUR blog – no one else’s and if they don’t like what you write THEY can leave…please don’t feel less than due to some crappy commenter who can’t show themselves..you’re so much more then that..hang in there andkwo we love you!

  60. Princess Extraordinaire

    Thisis YOUR blog – no one else’s and if they don’t like what you write THEY can leave…please don’t feel less than due to some crappy commenter who can’t show themselves..you’re so much more then that..hang in there andkwo we love you!

  61. just to add my 2 cents, this is your blog. you can say anything you like. in a perfect world people would respect your opinion and if they didn’t like what you were saying, would click the little red X in the corner. But since it’s not a perfect world, delete them and give the computer screen a good middle finger as you click the delete button. remember how many readers love what you have to say! 🙂

  62. just to add my 2 cents, this is your blog. you can say anything you like. in a perfect world people would respect your opinion and if they didn’t like what you were saying, would click the little red X in the corner. But since it’s not a perfect world, delete them and give the computer screen a good middle finger as you click the delete button. remember how many readers love what you have to say! 🙂

  63. Classy in Philadelphia

    I definitely understand this, and posted a bit about it today. I love that blogging is so open and it’s a conversation, but I don’t like when people judge a situation that they have no idea about. I find myself censoring more and more too..

  64. Classy in Philadelphia

    I definitely understand this, and posted a bit about it today. I love that blogging is so open and it’s a conversation, but I don’t like when people judge a situation that they have no idea about. I find myself censoring more and more too..

  65. “Odd how one bad review can cancel out all the good ones.” – Carrie Bradshaw from SATC

    I totally understand your situation and happened to stumble upon your blog. I write a business/life blog since I make handmade purses for sale. There was once I was upset about a customer demanding her shipment only after 3 days when it was international shipping. I posted the episode, no names, no details was revealed, just my personal thoughts and this other customer came along and wrote long comments about how I was being unprofessional and that she had been doing business was decades and won’t do such things + lengthy philosophy. I had supporters on what I was doing but eventually thought best to delete the post and say I’ll never do that again. I choked on it for a while and did some thinking then. It still bites to this day, and I find it rather limiting what we can say or can’t say on our very own blog. Ironic. I personally find that if I don’t like what I’m reading, I’ll go someplace else. Most of the time, if a person has to take time to leave negative comments on your blog, it really says something about their own issues, rather than you! Besides, it takes time for them to leave those comments so they’ve already spent that much time on you. Boo them.

    Ps, i do love your writing, so keep it coming!

  66. “Odd how one bad review can cancel out all the good ones.” – Carrie Bradshaw from SATC

    I totally understand your situation and happened to stumble upon your blog. I write a business/life blog since I make handmade purses for sale. There was once I was upset about a customer demanding her shipment only after 3 days when it was international shipping. I posted the episode, no names, no details was revealed, just my personal thoughts and this other customer came along and wrote long comments about how I was being unprofessional and that she had been doing business was decades and won’t do such things + lengthy philosophy. I had supporters on what I was doing but eventually thought best to delete the post and say I’ll never do that again. I choked on it for a while and did some thinking then. It still bites to this day, and I find it rather limiting what we can say or can’t say on our very own blog. Ironic. I personally find that if I don’t like what I’m reading, I’ll go someplace else. Most of the time, if a person has to take time to leave negative comments on your blog, it really says something about their own issues, rather than you! Besides, it takes time for them to leave those comments so they’ve already spent that much time on you. Boo them.

    Ps, i do love your writing, so keep it coming!

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