Last week I was talking to one of my best friends about her adventures on Match.com. She was getting ready for her first coffee date with a man she met online. She was excited, but nervous and unsure about how to end the date. I reassured her that it would be fine and she would know what felt right.
When she left it got me thinking. Now that I’m back in Texas, my pool of available men has changed. When I moved here I didn’t have a plan of when I wanted to start dating again. I thought I might find a job, move into an apartment, and get settled before I put myself out into the dating scene again. But talking with my friend changed my mind a bit.
It gave me the urge to meet someone. I checked online and Match.com had a free 7-day trial, so I signed up. I edited my profile from NYC to Austin and over the next few hours my inbox filled with messages. I read through them and smiled to myself. This was nice; a girl loves a good ego boost.
I replied to the few I thought were decent and went about my day. It wasn’t until I got replies that asked if I wanted to meet that I realized how uncomfortable I was.
My stomach turned as I read the line “How about some coffee or drinks this week?” In my opinion you should feel excited or slight nervousness, not dread when thinking about meeting someone new.
I closed the window on my computer screen and thought about it for a while. Yep, I’m not ready for this.
So I’m ending my free trial and taking things slow. I figure when I’m ready to start dating again, I’ll know. I’ll feel that chemistry and my heart will flutter with excitment. Until then, I’ll relish in the stories I hear from my friends and that’s just fine with me.