This post is probably going to make me seem like a horrible person and men are going to wonder why anyone would want to date me in the first place, but oh well.
I had dinner with M last night. It didn’t go well.
Reasons why I will not be seeing M again:
- He was 10 minutes late.
- We were supposed to met on the corner of the street, but he went straight to the restaurant (still 10 minutes late).
- He didn’t call to let me know he’d be late.
- He did not offer me the wine list on either of our dinner dates.
- He did not offer dessert (which is not a deal breaker in itself, but mixed with everything else it is).
- He brought up money again by saying he doesn’t like to go out for dinner because it’s so expensive- umm, hi you’re buying me dinner right now…
- He didn’t know what veal or gnocchi is.
- He asked how much money I’ll be making once I get a job. That’s none of your business, dude.
- When I said I didn’t know what my salary would be he made the assumption that it would be six figures. Yeah, I wish.
- He asked if I didn’t reply to his last email because he doesn’t have facebook. Haha.
- He brought up politics.
- We have widely different political beliefs.
- He said he doesn’t believe how Christians can vote Democrat because that would be supporting homosexuality and abortion. This was the major deal-breaker for me.
- He said he couldn’t understand why everyone was so excited about Obama.
- He continuously mentioned therapy as if it is the worst possible thing in the world- hi, I go to therapy weekly along with half of the other people in world and I’m in school to be a therapist. Stop knocking my future career.
- When we left the restaurant he ran ahead of me. Literally, ran. No idea why.
- And lastly, he walks with a bounce in his step. It’s just a little weird.
So that’s that. The M saga is over. If he calls/emails again I’ll let him know I don’t see it working out. And hopefully he won’t start stalking me.
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You should have stayed on the conference call- haha!
But yea. He’s a lameo. I hate him for you.
He seems awkward, you seem to be making the right choice in ending it there.
After that Obama comment you should have slapped him.
Ugh, good for you for knowing when enough is enough. You're a smart girl, and he is just an asshole
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I can’t blame you for not wanting to see him again. It’s so not cool to ask what someone would be making at a job. I don’t even ask my close friends that!
Nope nope nope. After the Democratic comment I would have left the table.
Sorry it didn’t work out.
I fully approve of you leaving him.
š You should have been the one running out of there!
I’m glad you’re weeding him out! No sense in sticking around for a guy that’s so disrespectful. He became less and less desirable with every date.
Thank God. You dodged a bullet with this one.
wow, how many types of crazy did he just do in one date?
not seeing him again sounds like a smart idea!
If you’re dating to find a long term relationship and marriage, there’s no shame in realizing quickly that it’s just not working out.
Otherwise it’s just a waste of everyone’s time (and more importantly for M- money)
WTF dude? He sounds like a total asswipe. Seriously. And the constant talk of money? That is so not classy.
Oh god, definitely glad you are getting rid of this one!
Umm it’s definitely not you; it’s HIM! Ughh. Glad you’re finding all this out now so you can move on to better things. Crazy!
God, I am surprised you stayed for dinner! I think I would’ve bounced my way out of there before the check and desert wasn’t offered š
well, you gave him a second chance and he turned out to be a tool so i’m sure we’ll all agree that you can stop seeing him now.
Yeah he sounds like a giant tool. You are smart to end that now.
P.S. I will be eating some homemade gnocchi this weekend!!! Jealous? lol
Hmmm…doesn’t sound like the guy for you. Who talks about money that much on a date? Where are his manners! You never ask how much someone makes. And being late with no call? Come on! You could have already bailed on him!
Sounds like a guy who doesn’t know what tact is. Next!
oh lord. that’s ridiculous and i don’t blame you for not seeing him again.
who the hell doesn’t know what veal or gnocchi is?? preposterous!!
oh lord. that’s ridiculous and i don’t blame you for not seeing him again.
who the hell doesn’t know what veal or gnocchi is?? preposterous!!
he crossed so many lines and on so many levels. Geeze, way to get the girl dude. ass.
he crossed so many lines and on so many levels. Geeze, way to get the girl dude. ass.
Don’t even think for a moment that you are in the wrong!
Apparently he doesn’t know the rules: no religion or politics or money talk for a long time.
He doesn’t seem sure of himself, entirely awkward and, well, not the kind of guy to spend your time with.
You’re making the right decision.
Sorry it was such a bum night.
Don’t even think for a moment that you are in the wrong!
Apparently he doesn’t know the rules: no religion or politics or money talk for a long time.
He doesn’t seem sure of himself, entirely awkward and, well, not the kind of guy to spend your time with.
You’re making the right decision.
Sorry it was such a bum night.
Yech! The money and politics comments would really bother me as well, so you are totally justified in not wanting to go out with him again. It creeps me out when guys start asking (on early dates) about how much money a girl makes – is there such a thing as a male gold digger?
Yech! The money and politics comments would really bother me as well, so you are totally justified in not wanting to go out with him again. It creeps me out when guys start asking (on early dates) about how much money a girl makes – is there such a thing as a male gold digger?
Bummer! Good thing you found out early on and got out…
Bummer! Good thing you found out early on and got out…
Sounds like it’s for the best that you will not be seeing him anymore.
Sounds like it’s for the best that you will not be seeing him anymore.
You are not a horrible person for wanting to get rid of him. I don’t blame you!
You are not a horrible person for wanting to get rid of him. I don’t blame you!
i wouldn't want to see him again either, for every single thing you listed. & don't feel bad. he's just not your type. you've given him a chance and nobody can fault you for not wanting to take it any further. š
i wouldn't want to see him again either, for every single thing you listed. & don't feel bad. he's just not your type. you've given him a chance and nobody can fault you for not wanting to take it any further. š
LMBO now that was a funny list. But really, Christians/Democrats, going to therapy…I was offended because I have been to therapy and I do therapy, and I’m in school to become a therapist so yeah don’t knock our profession LOL. Well if at first you don’t succeed get up and do something else. Last thing LOL for the bounce in his step. LOL
LMBO now that was a funny list. But really, Christians/Democrats, going to therapy…I was offended because I have been to therapy and I do therapy, and I’m in school to become a therapist so yeah don’t knock our profession LOL. Well if at first you don’t succeed get up and do something else. Last thing LOL for the bounce in his step. LOL
You’re definitely not a horrible person.
The therapy comment would have pissed me off too. I hope you called him out on it! That’s not cool.
You’re definitely not a horrible person.
The therapy comment would have pissed me off too. I hope you called him out on it! That’s not cool.
That’s quite a list! I don’t blame you a bit for not wanting to see him again… ew ew ew.
That’s quite a list! I don’t blame you a bit for not wanting to see him again… ew ew ew.
Oh Ashley! Sorry to hear this guy is such a dud. But there are other fish in the sea, and time’s to precious to waste it with some dork who doesn’t respect what you do.
Some wise words from my friend: SWSWSWSW (which means…Some Will, Some Won’t, So What, Someone’s Waiting!) So forget about M and free yourself up for a nice guy who will appreciate how great you are!
Oh Ashley! Sorry to hear this guy is such a dud. But there are other fish in the sea, and time’s to precious to waste it with some dork who doesn’t respect what you do.
Some wise words from my friend: SWSWSWSW (which means…Some Will, Some Won’t, So What, Someone’s Waiting!) So forget about M and free yourself up for a nice guy who will appreciate how great you are!
well he sure sounds pushy and stubborn! haha. wowza. looks like you’re making the right call in ending the M saga.
i’m not sure i could ever date someone who has INCREDIBLY different political views than i do. not because i’m huge into politics, or anything.. but its important to be on the same page in certain aspects of a relationship. and whether you are for or against gay marriage, abortions, wars, etc – definitely could be dealbreaker material, personally.
well he sure sounds pushy and stubborn! haha. wowza. looks like you’re making the right call in ending the M saga.
i’m not sure i could ever date someone who has INCREDIBLY different political views than i do. not because i’m huge into politics, or anything.. but its important to be on the same page in certain aspects of a relationship. and whether you are for or against gay marriage, abortions, wars, etc – definitely could be dealbreaker material, personally.
Okay, I don’t like him. Glad you’re kicking him to the curb. And being late and cheap is the worst in the book!!! Ugh!
Okay, I don’t like him. Glad you’re kicking him to the curb. And being late and cheap is the worst in the book!!! Ugh!
wow. has this dude EVER been in a relationship? good riddance.
i feel so bad that you had to endure this kind of date.
wow. has this dude EVER been in a relationship? good riddance.
i feel so bad that you had to endure this kind of date.
Wow! SO not cool. Sounds like you’re making a good move here.
Wow! SO not cool. Sounds like you’re making a good move here.
wow. sheesh.
wow. sheesh.
Oh wow. Good call, lady.
Oh wow. Good call, lady.
It sounds like he was coming up with ways to make you not like him, especially knocking your career and all that…
From this post and the lunch date, it sounds like he is WAY not the right person. Thank God it only lasted 3 dates, and not 3 months or 3 years!!!
OOO Wow… Bad times.
I wouldn’t go out with him again if there were only 5 of the things on that list.
At least you got out early girl!
It sounds like he was coming up with ways to make you not like him, especially knocking your career and all that…
From this post and the lunch date, it sounds like he is WAY not the right person. Thank God it only lasted 3 dates, and not 3 months or 3 years!!!
OOO Wow… Bad times.
I wouldn’t go out with him again if there were only 5 of the things on that list.
At least you got out early girl!
Yikes!
Reading your list…I was over him after the wine list thing. Deal breaker!
Yikes!
Reading your list…I was over him after the wine list thing. Deal breaker!
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You’re so not a horrible person, he seems like a super lame date! Kudos to you for a) having some standards and recognizing that this guy does NOT meet them, and b) knowing what is or isn’t a deal breaker!
You deserve WAY better… move on, girlie!
You’re so not a horrible person, he seems like a super lame date! Kudos to you for a) having some standards and recognizing that this guy does NOT meet them, and b) knowing what is or isn’t a deal breaker!
You deserve WAY better… move on, girlie!
no go on M. ouch. but you are doing the right thing. jesus. dating is just really hard.
no go on M. ouch. but you are doing the right thing. jesus. dating is just really hard.
ugh yeah definitely good reasons to not see him again. next! š
ugh yeah definitely good reasons to not see him again. next! š
Sounds like a good choice….NEXT
Sounds like a good choice….NEXT
UGH guys are so weird… I wish I knew how to understand their thought process. The last point made me laugh!
UGH guys are so weird… I wish I knew how to understand their thought process. The last point made me laugh!
All definitely deal breakers when combined in a huge list like that. Good choice.
NEXT. (ps I love to hate that show.)
All definitely deal breakers when combined in a huge list like that. Good choice.
NEXT. (ps I love to hate that show.)
Yikes. You definitely made the right decision. What an ignorant comment about Christians being Democrats.
Yikes. You definitely made the right decision. What an ignorant comment about Christians being Democrats.
He did a lot of deal breakers…better to know this now then to find things out when it’s way down the line…and after all the deal breakers I can see why the little stuff became annoying..
He did a lot of deal breakers…better to know this now then to find things out when it’s way down the line…and after all the deal breakers I can see why the little stuff became annoying..
With that many strikes? Yes. M is dis-missed.
With that many strikes? Yes. M is dis-missed.
yah that sounds very not like a good date, you should probably not see him again..lol
Although its not fun to crash and burn like that, I thought I would let you know something good came out of it all..I got a few laughs. lol.
yah that sounds very not like a good date, you should probably not see him again..lol
Although its not fun to crash and burn like that, I thought I would let you know something good came out of it all..I got a few laughs. lol.
Dude, this guy sounds nuts! He’s hating on Obama? And your career? And didn’t offer dessert? And complained about not liking to go out to dinner because it’s too expensive?! And his position on homosexuality and abortion!? Oh man, I’m so glad you’ve ended the M saga! Can’t wait to hear how your V-day date went!
Dude, this guy sounds nuts! He’s hating on Obama? And your career? And didn’t offer dessert? And complained about not liking to go out to dinner because it’s too expensive?! And his position on homosexuality and abortion!? Oh man, I’m so glad you’ve ended the M saga! Can’t wait to hear how your V-day date went!
Urgh. He sounds like a mean bigot and not offering dessert is awful.
Impolite and boring.
Urgh. He sounds like a mean bigot and not offering dessert is awful.
Impolite and boring.
wow. how awful.
i remember a guy breaking the deal when he kept repeating that he HATES jazz music. HATES it HATE it HATES it. I don’t expect him to love it, but possibly keep an open mind.
sure didn’t help that his breath was not always fresh……….
wow. how awful.
i remember a guy breaking the deal when he kept repeating that he HATES jazz music. HATES it HATE it HATES it. I don’t expect him to love it, but possibly keep an open mind.
sure didn’t help that his breath was not always fresh……….